January 30, 2009

An All-American Love – And Success – Story

Gateway Pundit has a neat story up about Kurt and Brenda Warner – but unfortunately it is not accurate. Here’s his original.

In a supermarket, Kurtis the stock boy, was busily working when a new voice came over the loud speaker asking for a carry out at register 4. Kurtis was almost finished, and wanted to get some fresh air, and decided to answer the call. As he approached the check-out stand a distant smile caught his eye, the new check-out girl was beautiful. She was an older woman (maybe 26, and he was only 22) and he fell in love.

Later that day, after his shift was over, he waited by the punch clock to find out her name. She came into the break room, smiled softly at him, took her card and punched out, then left. &nbs p; He looked at her card, BRENDA. He walked out only to see her start walking up the road. Next day, he waited outside as she left the supermarket, and offered her a ride home. He looked harmless enough, and she accepted. When he dropped her off, he asked if maybe he could see her again, outside of work. She simply said it wasn't possible.

He pressed and she explained she had two children and she couldn't afford a baby-sitter, so he offered to pay for the baby-sitter. Reluctantly she accepted his offer for a date for the following Saturday. That Saturday night he arrived at her door only to have her tell him that she was unable to go with him. The baby-sitter had called and canceled. To which Kurtis simply said, "Well, let's take the kids with us."

She tried to explain that taking the children was not an option, but again not taking no for an answer, he pressed. Finally Brenda, brought him inside to meet her children. She had an older daughter who was just as cute as a bug, Kurtis thought, then Brenda brought out her son, in a wheelchair. He was born a paraplegic with Down Syndrome.

Kurtis asked Brenda, "I still don't understand why the kids can't come with us?" Brenda was amazed. Most men would run away from a woman with two kids, especially if one had disabilities - just like her first husband and father of her children had done. Kurtis was not ordinary--- he had a different mindset.

That evening Kurtis and Brenda loaded up the kids, went to dinner and the movies. When her son needed anything Kurtis would take care of him. When he needed to use the restroom, he picked him up out of his wheelchair, took him and brought him back. The kids loved Kurtis. At the end of the evening, Brenda knew this was the man she was going to marry and spend the rest of her life with.

A year later, they were married and Kurtis adopted both of her children. Since then they have added five more kids.

So what happened to Kurtis the stock boy and Brenda the check-out girl? Well, Mr. & Mrs. Kurt Warner now live in Arizona , where he is currently employed as the quarterback of the National Football League Arizona Cardinals and has his Cardinals are in the Super Bowl. Is this a surprise ending or could you have guessed that he was not an ordinary person.

It should be noted that he also quarterbacked the Rams in Super Bowl XXXVI.

He has also been the NLF's Most Valuable Player twice and the Super Bowl's Most Valuable Player.

Snopes.com debunks the story – but supplies the real story that is an even more inpiring tale of love and overcoming adversity.

Kurt and Brenda did not meet while both were working in a grocery store, so you can throw out all that bit about his mooning over her timecard. They met in 1992 at a country bar while he was Northern Iowa's starting quarterback. (After being cut by the Green Bay Packers in 1994, Kurt did find employment in a grocery store, though: He stocked shelves at a Hy-Vee in Cedar Falls for $5.50 an hour.) The next morning Kurt brought Brenda roses and wanted to meet her youngsters. She'd told Kurt about her children the night before, so there was no dramatic surprise when she introduced her disabled son.

The Warners' was a lengthy courtship. They married in 1997 after meeting in 1992 (not "a year later," as the e-mail has it).

Brenda (who is four years older than Kurt) had two children by a previous marriage; however, the e-mail version has their birth order reversed. In real life, Zachary is three years older than his sister, Jesse Jo. (More on this seemingly picayune point later because it's pivotal to the real story of Brenda Warner's life before Kurt.)

Zachary Warner (born in 1989) does indeed have serious physical infirmities, but how he came by them is far more of a story than the Internet fiction lets on. He was a perfectly healthy infant, not a Down Syndrome child. When he was four months old, his father dropped him, and in the blink of an eye, this previously healthy baby was suddenly clinging to life, his grip slipping fast. He suffered severe brain damage, and both of his retinas were ruptured. At the time, few thought Zachary would live, and fewer still held out any hope he would ever see, sit up, read, walk, or talk.

Zachary's recovery has been long and arduous, but he now walks and talks. Though still legally blind, he can make out colors and shapes. No longer strictly a special-needs student, he is integrated for half-days in a regular high school classroom.

Kurt adopted Zachary and Jesse after his wedding to Brenda in 1997. The Warners have since added five more children to their brood: Kade in 1998, Jada in 2001, Elijah in 2003, and twins Sienna and Sierra in 2005.

As for what sort of lad Zachary is and what kind of relationship he enjoys with his adoptive father, this anecdote should say it all: After the Rams victory in the NFC Championship game in 2000, 10-year-old Zachary presented Kurt with a homemade card done in Rams blue and gold. Inside, in childlike scrawl, it read: "You're as good a dad as you are a quarterback!"

Zachary's birth dad could hardly be described in similar fashion. An inability to come to terms with the injuries he'd visited upon his son led to the breakup of his marriage to Brenda. He left her when she was eight months pregnant with Jesse.

Over and above the numerous inaccuracies, the worst offense this particular e-mailed glurge is guilty of is omission. Not content with recasting the details of the Warners' lives (and the reality had the fiction beat, remember), it leaves by the wayside horrendously large chunks of a truly thrilling story of the sort one usually pays $9.00 to see at the movies:


  • All the heartbreak Kurt endured trying to get into the NFL, and the many setbacks he had to weather along the way. So many of our gridiron heroes go in as highly touted draft picks it's sometimes hard to realize some take a tortuous path to the pigskin paradise of the NFL. Kurt presented as a free agent to the Green Bay Packers in 1994, was signed, then cut by them that same year. In 1997 he had a tryout scheduled with the Chicago Bears which fell through when an injury sustained during his honeymoon rendered him hors de combat. (A venomous spider had bitten him on his throwing elbow.) He had to muck about in the Arena and European leagues before finally being taken on by the Rams in 1997 as their third-string quarterback. In 1999 he stepped in during the preseason in place of injured Trent Green and began almost immediately to rewrite Rams' history.
  • Brenda's battle to make a life for herself and her two children after her first husband deserted her. This former Marine had to return to her parents' home when she was eight months pregnant with her second child and with a brain-damaged child already in tow. She completed her nursing training during this period, getting by with the help of food stamps and student loans.
  • The death of Brenda's parents in Mountain View, Arkansas, in a tornado in 1996. They'd retired there just a year earlier.
  • Kurt's embracing of Christianity in 1996. (Although he was raised a Catholic, he dates his spiritual awakening to those dark days in the wake of the deaths of Brenda's parents.)
  • Kurt's throwing for a record 414 yards in his 23-16 Super Bowl XXXIV victory over the Tennessee Titans and being named that contest's Most Valuable Player. This new mark topped the previous record of 357 yards set by San Francisco's Joe Montana in Super Bowl XXIII and capped an astounding 4,353-yard, 41-touchdown regular season that won him league MVP honors.

As you can see, falling in love with and then marrying a gal who had two children, one of them a special needs child, was just part of this most remarkable story.

See – the truth is even more inspiring than the fiction.
IÂ’d like to add a note to this.

My darling wife found Kurt and Brenda Warner quite grating when he was quarterback of the St. Louis Rams, due to their very public religiosity (please note – my wife is a Christian minister and former pastor, just not of the Warner’s evangelical brand of Christianity), though she and I did respect their faith. But this year, as Kurt Warner and the Arizona Cardinals have progressed through the playoffs, she has wished that the press would focus more on Brenda Warner and the Warner family. Why the change? Because over the last several years we have seen the media obsess on Tony Romo’s pair of musical girlfriends and whether they would attend games, as well as Tom Brady’s girlfriend and baby situation. Where, she asks, is the focus on the players with great family values whose families turn out faithfully to lend them support? Kurt and Brenda Warner are the model for that sort of relationship, one that should be highlighted rather than the dysfunctional romantic attachments of those other two star quarterbacks. After all – it is the sort of love story lived out by the Warners, not the sexual antics of the other two, that ought to be held up to young people as the model to be emulated.

Posted by: Greg at 10:30 AM | Comments (2) | Add Comment
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1 My money would be buying either of the stories of Kurt And his wife Brenda. The inaccuracies I find unimportant because the main theme holds true. The man in Kurt Warner exhibits what every player in the NFL should present to both the adult viewers as well as the youth as a role model. There are some things that should be taken as a story, and not be degraded by the what you would call the corrective journalist. My meaning is that in some cases as this with the soul capturing story of two people who weather the bad in the world in both of their lives, should be left alone. It serves to help mold youth as they are both exceptional model roles for the troubled youth in the USA. What good does it do to attack this story written by another writer who used authers perogative in the creation of this story. There is a writer ( Penny Parker ) who writes a column for the Rocky Mountain News that did attack this sweet story with this lead in "Warner Story Sweet But A Fib" Who the hell is this poison pen Penny who thinks she is making the Colorado audience better people by ripping the story. It reminds me of those people who would rip the wings off of a beautiful butterfly. This type of criticism does nothing but degrade the impression of the Kurt and Brenda Warner story. This professional article writer would be looking for other work had she ran this story in a newspaper with a volume of subscribers that read Rocky Mountain News, if I were the editor or owner of the newspaper. There is more misprinted, inacurate stories in newspapers every day that would be much more satisfied targets than the warners Story. I as a person that sees trememdous charm and potential benefits to all that read this stroy. To the upcoming writers, there are times that you should write and challenge, and there a e indeed times that the good can only turn things bad, and should never be written. My heart goes toward the Warners extraordinary Story, and sets it way above the story of Santa Claus or other fictional stories that will go on forever. My message to character assasins os this "GET A LIFE". That is one mans feelings, Wayne Beeman

Posted by: Wayne Beeman at Wed Feb 25 13:26:10 2009 (Wo51R)

2 This professional article writer would be looking for other work had she ran this story in a newspaper with a volume of subscribers that read Rocky Mountain News, if I were the editor or owner of the newspaper.

Posted by: Aleta Ely at Tue Aug 21 05:25:02 2012 (Lzpcw)

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